Helping Children Locked in Rage or Hate

Book excerpt: This is a guidebook to help children who: hurt, hit, bite, smash, kick, shout, scream or who are out of control, hyperaroused or hyperactive; can only discharge their angry feelings in verbal or physical attacks, rather than being able to think about and reflect on what they feel; are angry because it is easier than feeling hurt or sad; are locked in anger or rage because of sibling rivalry; are controlling and punitive; regularly defy authority or are diagnosed with a conduct disorder; commit cold acts of cruelty, hurt animals or do not cry any more; spoil, damage or destroy what others do or make; create fear in others because they have locked away their own fears; do not want to please people, cannot trust, have stopped looking for love or approval or truly believe they do not need anyone; do not really know how to 'like' someone; and, definitely do not know how to love someone or are affectionate only if they want something.